Nothing in my life abroad was objectively wrong.
And yet, something inside me felt completely off.
I was living abroad, building a relationship, studying, moving forward. From the outside, everything looked like it was perfect.
But one afternoon during my exchange semester in 2006, sitting at a small desk in Copenhagen, something shifted. Out of nowhere, I felt a strange emptiness in my body, almost as if the ground beneath me had disappeared.
And suddenly, these questions were there:
Where do I belong? Where is home, actually? Do I belong anywhere at all?
Nothing in my life had changed, but in that moment, I felt completely lost.
For a long time, I did what many of us do.
I kept going.
The discomfort subsided qucikly again, and I continued building my international life. I got married. I kept trying to create something meaningful for myself. Figuring things out on the go, adjusting and making it work.
Couple of years down the road, I was functioning on the outside, but inside I didn’t feel as settled as it looked. There were phases where I felt stuck, invisible, like I had somehow lost connection to myself along the way.
For a long time, I believed I knew what the problem was.
If I just find the right job… then everything will fall into place.
But this wasn’t the solution.
Because the real problem wasn’t out there. (It never is.) It was that I had slowly lost connection to what actually felt like me.
What finally started to change things
I didn’t have a perfect plan. It was also not a big breakthrough. It was something much simpler.
I began reconnecting with myself again. Little by little, at my own pace.
I rediscovered what gives me energy. What feels true. What I actually want, beyond what I thought I “should” want. This slowly shifted my focus.
And from there, things fell into place. I felt more grounded, more clear, more like myself again.
Come home to yourself,
wherever you are
If you want to explore what coming home to yourself could look like, this is your invitation to join my free workshop. What we cover:
- why life abroad often disconnects us from ourselves
- the 3 shifts that help you rebuild self-trust and confidence from inside
- one practical first step to stop spiralling and start feeling more grounded, clear and like yourself again